Stop settling, end situationships & the ghosting and walk away as the most powerful version of you, ready to date like YOU’RE THE PRIZE
Spicy Queen Academy is a 3-month emotional reset for the woman who’s done settling and is ready to BE the PRIZE!
You can only outrun your patterns for so long.
At some point, every strong, self-aware woman hits a moment where the next love story can’t begin until she changes.
Not by trying harder.
Not by journaling or talking in circles.
Not by collecting more insight about your attachment style.But by finally shifting the patterns that live in your body—
the ones that keep pulling you toward the same men, the same dynamics, the same heartbreak.If you’re here, you’re likely not “new” to healing.
You’ve done therapy.
You’re emotionally intelligent.
You can articulate the pattern.And yet…
you keep meeting emotionally unavailable men
you keep getting pulled into situationships + mixed signals
the chemistry is fast… and then it turns into chaos
one match becomes a spiral
you overgive, overthink, over-attach
or you shut down, delete the apps, and swear you’re “done”
You’re not confused about what’s happening.
You’re exhausted that it’s still happening.Because the truth is:
Your nervous system is the pattern. Not your mindset.
It’s not that you “don’t know better.”
It’s that your body is still wired to:
chase what feels familiar
confuse anxiety for intuition
confuse intensity for intimacy
use hyper-independence as protection
use sexualisation as a shortcut to attention
collapse into future planning after minimal effort from a man
spiral after being unmatched or ignored
resent modern dating while still craving partnership
So even when you say you want love…
your body braces for impact the second it starts to arrive.And that’s why dating feels like a second job.
“I’m done. I can’t do this anymore.”
and
“Maybe if I try harder… look hotter… play it cooler.”You’re tired of the emotional hangovers:
text anxiety
refreshing the phone
performing “chill”
ruminating after dates
losing focus in business when a man enters the picture
shame for caring this much
jealousy… and then guilt for the jealousy
anger at yourself for “still being here”
And quietly, sometimes, the thought creeps in:
Maybe love isn’t meant for me.
Not because you don’t want love.
But because you don’t trust your judgment anymore.
Hey Queen,
Spicy Queen Academy is the reset What it is
A 3-month emotional reset that takes you from dating from survival to dating from self-trust.
This is the easy yes entry point.
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3 months
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$3,000
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Designed to bring you into my world and create a real baseline shift
And for the women who are ready after, a natural upgrade path into Attract Your Soulhusband
What it’s not
This is not information.
It’s integration.
It takes you from:
“I know why I do this…”
to
“I no longer do this.”
✨Why this works when therapy + self-awareness didn’t
Therapy can be powerful for understanding your past.
But if your body still panics around closeness, uncertainty, desire, and being seen…
you will keep repeating the same pattern
even with a fully developed vocabulary for it.
Somatic work is the bridge.
Because change becomes permanent when your nervous system learns safety in real time.
That’s why Spicy Queen Academy isn’t mindset-only.
It’s body-based. It’s lived. It’s practiced
Step into your Spicy Queen Era
You’ll learn how to raise your standards without fear, hold your boundaries without guilt, and receive love without collapsing, shrinking, or second-guessing your worth.
Here’s what we’ll work on together:
1) Pattern Interruption
You learn to spot the pattern in real time, not in hindsight.
This includes:
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early red flag recognition
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separating chemistry from chaos
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seeing the “familiar” dynamic before you bond to it
2) Nervous System Regulation in Real Life
So you can handle:
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uncertainty
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attraction
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waiting
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being pursued
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being seen
without defaulting back to control, chase, prove, or perform.
3) Somatic + Body-Based Processing (signature modality)
We clear the emotional residue your body is still holding.
So you stop:
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reliving the past through new men
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getting hijacked by triggers you can’t “logic” your way out of
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repeating patterns your mind already understands
4) Standards + Self-Trust Training
You learn how to:
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hold the line without over-explaining
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walk away from inconsistency without negotiating
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stop abandoning yourself to be chosen
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let behavior be the proof
5) Prep to Date Again
Month 1 is stabilizing and clearing patterns.
By Month 2, most women feel ready to date again with a new baseline.
You’re not waiting until you’re “fully healed.”
You’re learning how to be regulated while dating so dating stops being an emotional war zone.
Bonus: Love Pattern Reset + January Reset Call
You’ll receive Love Pattern Reset as a foundational bonus
plus an extra call in early January to clear blocks and reset patterns for the year.
What my clients are saying:
Investment Options
Inside Spicy Queen Academy you get:
→ 💖 The Spicy Queen Method™ Framework ($10,000 value) A step-by-step process to break your patterns, rebuild your self-trust, and upgrade your standards from the inside out.
→ 🔥 Hot Seat Coaching Calls for 2 Months ($7,200 value) Weekly live coaching to work through your specific patterns, triggers, and challenges as they arise. Get personalized guidance to break through blocks
→ 📱 Community Support & Connection ($1,600 value) Stay connected, supported, and accountable with women walking the same path.
→ 🧘♀️ Advanced Embodiment Practices Library ($1,750 value) Short, powerful tools to help you regulate, feel grounded, and stay emotionally steady.
The transformation
You become the woman who does not abandon herself when attraction shows up.
You stop dating to soothe a wound.
You start dating from identity.
What changes internally
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You trust yourself the first time
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You know the difference between intuition vs anxiety
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You know the difference between green flags vs trauma bonds
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You know the difference between consistency vs intensity
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You stop treating attention as proof
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You start treating behavior as proof
What changes behaviorally
You stop:
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chasing
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nagging
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over-explaining
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sexualizing yourself for crumbs
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future planning after a few messages
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refreshing, checking, spiraling
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going back to the same man in a new outfit
You start:
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holding standards without guilt
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moving slowly without fear
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asking better questions
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walking away cleanly
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letting men lead without losing your power
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staying emotionally steady even when you like him
What changes relationally
You attract a different type of man because you are no longer compatible with the old dynamic.
Not because you’re “better.”
Because you’re no longer available for chaos.
The after state in one line
You date like a Spicy Queen: soft, steady, self-led, and not negotiable.
Is this you?
What you say out loud:
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“I’m tired.”
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“Dating feels exhausting.”
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“I keep meeting men who don’t want commitment.”
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“I’ve done therapy… why is nothing changing?”
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“I want something healthy and consistent.”
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“I want to stop overthinking every text.”
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“I don’t even want to go on the apps anymore.”
What you think but don’t want to admit:
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“What is wrong with me?”
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“Maybe love isn’t meant for me.”
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“I’m jealous of my friends and I hate that I’m jealous.”
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“I’m scared I missed my window.”
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“I’m scared I’ll choose wrong again.”
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“I feel like I have to be hotter / smaller / younger to be chosen.”
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“I don’t trust my judgment anymore.”
If any of that hit…
you’re exactly who this was built for.
👑 Inside Spicy Queen Academy, you become unshakeable.
✨ What Happens After These 3 Months
You’ll be the woman who:
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Knows she’s the prize
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Holds her standards easily
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Stops settling
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Feels steady instead of anxious
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Stands in her worth
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Trusts herself around men
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Attracts emotionally available, committed partners
This isn’t about performing confidence.
It’s about embodying it.
This is where you stop repeating the past
and start creating the love life you actually want.
This isn’t just healing.
It’s becoming the woman who sets the standard.
For how she’s treated. For how she loves. And for how deeply she trusts herself.
You'll also get access to:
You're The Prize
(value: $999)
Transform from asking 'what's wrong with me?' and 'am I too much?' to becoming the confident queen he can't resist.
Love Pattern Reset
(value: $222)
5 Days To Break The Love Patterns That Keep You Stuck, Stressed, and Second-Guessing.
Dating Red Flags
(value: $77)
Say "Hell Yes" to Healthy Relationships.
Situationship Detox
($97)
If you're finding yourself in a constant cycle of situationships but can never seem to land someone perfect for you... this is for you.
Still Not Sure You're Ready? Let's Talk About It 👑
You’re not waiting for “readiness.”
You’re waiting for permission.
This is it.
You don’t need to hit rock bottom.
You don’t need another heartbreak.
You don’t need to settle one more time.
You’re allowed to choose something better now.
Something calmer.
Something clearer.
Something honest.
Something that feels like you.
The version of you who knows she’s the prize
is one decision away.
Welcome to Spicy Queen Academy.
The healing you want is your choice. The patterns you want to break are your choice. The kind of love you want to create is your choice. The relationship you want to have with yourself is your choice.
There's a reason some women keep accepting less while others create soul-deep love, they don't wait until they're "ready," they decide they deserve more and take action.
Why I built this:
I made a choice at 31, after my divorce from a 10-year relationship, that I wasn't going to let fear dictate my love story anymore.
I made a choice after a string of relationships with men who couldn't commit, who didn't meet my standards, that I deserved more - even when trusting myself felt impossible.
I made a choice to be honest about what I really wanted - marriage, family, deep love - even when it felt safer to pretend I was "fine" being alone.
And because I chose myself every single day, fought the urge to run when good love showed up, and did the deep work to heal...I now have the kind of marriage that gets richer and more connected with time. (Yes, we got married just 10 months after meeting, and no, I've never been more sure of anything.)
But this journey wasn't just about finding love - it was about finding myself. From struggling with depression and anxiety to feeling liberated from others' expectations. From losing my reputation and family relationships after divorce to creating a community that loves the real me. From doubting if I'd ever trust myself again to becoming braver than I've ever been.
And I know what’s possible when you choose a new ending. Don’t wait until you hit rock bottom. Lift yourself into the love you deserve. Let me help you land softly.
